For long time I couldnt understand what is Gestalt.. this word seemed magestic and difficult for understanding… until I got an example from real life.. My neighbor woman told me once that when she was a child she had a traumatic experience, a fire burned the house and a dog, tied to it. She in her old age still couldnt forget the sufferings of the animal. This is an open gestalt.
To close it I offered the practice from NLP I learned from Andrey Mikhailovich Barakin. I offered her to dig in this traumatic experience and change the end – to imagine that she (girl) has lots of water and to overflow her dog with this water…somehow this method helps… people start to feel better.. the gestalt clothes and deficit becomes fullfilled.
I also understand such gestalts \ deficites as a problem that cant be settled cos the person is dead for instance or doesnt want to connect with you… in this case a technique of psychodrama or family constellations step in, when you can insult\ask to forgive the real man who plays the role of the dead one you need.. you can even go to the cemetery to say it by the grave.
From Barakin course on psychological aspects of overweight I remember one woman who told her story also started in childhood. She lived in a poor family who couldnt afford desserts for children more than cheapest caramel. And this girl once went to the house of her friend and has stolen from it some money. The summ was enough to buy a big cake with cream and all that stuff. They (she and her sister) bought this cake went out of shop and eat this cake with bare hands straight on the grass. And her parents found out this and idk if she was punished or not… but this deficit aka gestalt was not closed… Andrey Barakin told her to change this situation from the past in her head now.. to give this little girl all the cakes in the world and money and gold… anything that can close fullfill the void.
I worked with sui deviations of one girl and her subconscious brought to light the image of her uncle who commited suicide. We considered the life as a flow of water that goes from parents to children and so on… she got the image in her head that her uncle was asking for water, he was thirsty, he wanted to drink… basing on this NLP method i asked her to give him all the water in the world… and she felt better.
Well.. idk maybe its too much and I bring the term Deficite from business and i cant use it for gestalt… but the term “to close a deficit” is now equal to me same as “close a gestalt”.
Vika Magnitskaya
P.S. Actually I found this term not in business but in literature for loosing weight. The book (Olga Goloschapova Goodbye, diet) was very good. It told the real truth of dieting, she wrote there that no diets are efficient and only letting yourself go and eating intuitively can solve the matter of overweight. You can eat everything you want.. if you want sweet – eat sweet, lard – eat lard..bread – eat bread.. the aim is to close your body deficits… and this is true when you let yourself eat all you want very soon you will loose interest to sweet, lard and bread and will eat it in small amounts just enough to make you feel ok. Yes.. and as a result of this intuitive eating is that you will get back your energy.. and you will want to go into sport.. Olga started jogging in the park, I after reading her book – started daily 30 mins fast walking on the running machine in gym.. and letting myself eat all i want I feel full of energy. This book is only in Russian, but the main idea i just gave you.
The only explanation I have regarding zero absorbing all other numbers in calculations like 1*0=0 is that zero=death that eats matter. ~ Vika Magnitskaya
About first push of life energy. In Abrahamic religions it’s God who starts life via Adam (a copy of God) (was he an androgin\hermaphrodite i wonder?) so next the diсhotomy starts with Eve and even more with their children later.
So here the question is…this inicial energy say it’s 100% of energy given by God to Adam and Eve, do they share it equally? after childbirth say 50% stays in parents and 33% goes to each of their 3 children… Kain, Avel and Sif. And the question to the death of Avel, did his 17% returned to Adam and Eve?
I calculate this because of the explanation of Bert Hellinger (former Christian missionary in Africa – this is important cos in Africa they still have cannibalism).
So, he said.. imagine how life flows through your parents in you and after through you to your children. This energy flow goes through hearts of parents (staying together) through their children (stayin in front of them) and will be passed through grandchildren (stayin in front of them) and so on.
family constellations bert hellinger
This sounds right if we talk about lineage, of traditional approach of regular families with childbirth. It also proves synergy, cos giving birth parents maintain their initial energy, cos the child doesnt suck 50% of their living forces, but somehow gets own energy. We dont see depressed abulia anhedonia parents.. many are full of energy even with multiple childbirthes.
Scientists also contradict the origin of humanity from 2 first people, saying humans have several origin sources ww.
So, what i want to say.. Abrahamiс religions’ origin (Genesis) is questionable and based on the easiest idea that comes to the head of everyone. And Family Constellations of Bert Hellinger are also questionable, cos are based on Christianity standards, not scientific researches.. but, anyway, Bert Hellinger was a psychological superstar… and its a pity when i see nowadays Constellations psychologies explaining them via ezoteric and unproved energy fields round humans, which contain and reflect all the info about the person.
But, anyway, Jung’s collective unconscious is also scientifically unproved, but everyone feels it.
Actually Constellations mean stable structure of stars in chaotic night sky… and Hellinger’s or Jung’s constellations are an attempt to find stable structures (explanations) in the chaos of life.
Bert Hellinger family constellations
Vika Magnitskaya
P.S. I got a diploma on Religion Studies)) ^..^
Bert Hellinger was practicing family constellations in prisons too.
