For long time I couldnt understand what is Gestalt.. this word seemed magestic and difficult for understanding… until I got an example from real life.. My neighbor woman told me once that when she was a child she had a traumatic experience, a fire burned the house and a dog, tied to it. She in her old age still couldnt forget the sufferings of the animal. This is an open gestalt.
To close it I offered the practice from NLP I learned from Andrey Mikhailovich Barakin. I offered her to dig in this traumatic experience and change the end – to imagine that she (girl) has lots of water and to overflow her dog with this water…somehow this method helps… people start to feel better.. the gestalt clothes and deficit becomes fullfilled.
I also understand such gestalts \ deficites as a problem that cant be settled cos the person is dead for instance or doesnt want to connect with you… in this case a technique of psychodrama or family constellations step in, when you can insult\ask to forgive the real man who plays the role of the dead one you need.. you can even go to the cemetery to say it by the grave.
From Barakin course on psychological aspects of overweight I remember one woman who told her story also started in childhood. She lived in a poor family who couldnt afford desserts for children more than cheapest sugar candies. And this girl once went to the house of her friend and has stolen from it some money. The summ was enough to buy a big cake with cream and all that stuff. They (she and her sister) bought this cake went out of shop and eat this cake with bare hands straight on the grass. And her parents found out this and idk if she was punished or not… but this deficit aka gestalt was not closed… Andrey Barakin told her to change this situation from the past in her head now.. to give this little girl all the cakes in the world and money and gold… anything that can close fullfill the void.
I worked with sui deviations of one girl and her subconscious brought to light the image of her uncle who commited suicide. We considered the life as a flow of water that goes from parents to children and so on… she got the image in her head that her uncle was asking for water, he was thirsty, he wanted to drink… basing on this NLP method i asked her to give him all the water in the world… and she felt better.
Well.. idk maybe its too much and I bring the term Deficite from business and i cant use it for gestalt… but the term “to close a deficit” is now equal to me same as “close a gestalt”.
Vika Magnitskaya
P.S. Actually I found this term not in business but in literature for loosing weight. The book (Olga Goloschapova Goodbye, diet) was very good. It told the real truth of dieting, she wrote there that no diets are efficient and only letting yourself go and eating intuitively can solve the matter of overweight. You can eat everything you want.. if you want sweet – eat sweet, lard – eat lard..bread – eat bread.. the aim is to close your body deficits… and this is true when you let yourself eat all you want very soon you will loose interest to sweet, lard and bread and will eat it in small amounts just enough to make you feel ok. Yes.. and as a result of this intuitive eating is that you will get back your energy.. and you will want to go into sport.. Olga started jogging in the park, I after reading her book – started daily 30 mins fast walking on the running machine in gym.. and letting myself eat all i want I feel full of energy. This book is only in Russian, but the main idea i just gave you.
Ночь снова здесь… всё явь иль нет? Вопрос об этом и есть ответ.
DeepSeek and Vika Magnitskaya poem
Night is here again… is this all real or not? The world is a snap, a scene forgot. The sounds are dull, the shapes are flat I move, but no one feels all that.
The glass is cold, the sky is shit, I pinch my skin – I feel no heat. A ghost who walks through waking sleep, Where nothing’s deep enough to keep.
Night is here again.. is this all real or not? This question is all the truth I’ve got.
I just heard something from a Russian philologist – here’s the link to her video in Russian: vk.com/wall-130890040_29941.
She said that in ancient human societies, when a man went hunting for food and the mother stayed in the cave with a baby (and couldn’t get food for herself), the male had two choices:
Eat all the food by himself without sharing – and then the female and the baby would die.
Share the food with female and child and then the whole group would survive and population will grow.
This reminded me of my own personal experience with a little “society” of rats.
I once had a male and a female rats living in the same cage. (I didn’t know they had to be separated to different cages when not breeding, honestly I’m really ashamed of that now, I’m sorry.)
The female rat was constantly pregnant. I gave the babies to a pet store, and she got pregnant again right away.
The thing is even though I fed them well, the male rat would still sometimes eat the babies.
And not only that – he would also fuck the babies rats (his own daughters!). I found out about this by accident. I gave a baby rat to a friend, and later found out that this rat gave birth even though she lived alone…
So after seeing how this rat society works, I realized: I don’t want that. I’d rather be alone in my own cage than live with a male like that. I dont want to get into hopeless situation when I cant earn relying on a male who can decide one day that he doesnt want to feed female and child but want to fuck\eat own children. The probability of unhappy result of a marriage is too high to take the risk.
And I think none of the women likes to hear after childbirth – eggs producers are not made to cock-a-doodle-doo.
Saturn eating own childMoloch (A deity to whom child sacrifices were made throughout the ancient Middle East)
I’ve been thinking about this whole idea of children’s debt to their parents – the duty to care for them in old age, when they can no longer manage on their own. I’ve noticed that many people seem to think that by having grandchildren and raising them, they are somehow paying off the debt to their own parents. I really don’t get it… As if, in some metaphysical way, the energy they invest in their children and grandchildren spreads to the realm of the grandparents? That’s just nonsense. I don’t have children myself, and I believe we should take better care of the elderly than of children – because children have given you nothing, while your grandparents and parents gave you everything.
I also have this idea in my head that good and bad deeds influence your energy body, and you get angel wings or a beastly look (hooves, hairy legs, claws and fangs). And I swear I saw wings on ER medics. And I think that when a man with sins approaches such an angelic person, his demonic appearance manifests and can be seen… I just don’t understand why there are no angels in Asian cultures. There, saints (bodhisattvas) have multiple hands to help all in need, not wings. Maybe these hands are similar to wings..
